導師的狀態

*** 導師的狀態 ***

這一個課題只能用印度語來解釋(註一)，(所以剛才我先用印度語講)，其中我提到：這個導師的狀態(Guru Pad，state of Guru)只能從他人(譯者：一個真正的導師)來獲得。這個給予你導師狀態的人，他本身被賦予一些大能力(powers)，首先是"祥和心境的能力"(the power of peace of mind)，而且他也擁有去克服所有各種世俗困難、心理問題、身體問題的能力。你(譯者：指門徙)可以經由你的內心的平衡及你的導師心智上的祝福，來解決上面提到的這些問題。

當你變成導師時，你自己也會有能力來給予他人祝福，以你的祝福力量你可以創造出(另)一個導師。一旦導師被創造出來，他就擁有這些大能力。這些能力是非常有威力，且令導師有難以言喻的滿足感。

這個滿足感是如此之大，以至於他不會再要求其他任何東西，這種滿足感可以說是濕婆神(Shiva)的大能之一。你們都知道濕婆神只穿一點衣服，衪不會裝扮祂自己，祂只是隨時盤坐著，處在冥想的狀態。祂不需要任何東西，祂自己是如此的滿足，所以衪不再追求什麼東西。這種滿足感可以在你得到自覺之後獲得，但前提是：你要有一個那種水平與能力的(真正)導師。

人不要想嘗試變成一個導師，這是不切實際的。假如你想去變成一個導師，那麼你絕對不可能成為一個導師。導師的狀態是自動降臨在你身上的，不必你去請求，也不是去努力就可達成。達到此狀態的唯一途逕就是經由靜坐(dhyana，即meditation)，就只是靜坐、再靜坐。靜坐中也不要去要求什麼，靜坐本身會讓你成為足以承受這個導師大能的工具。之後你自然而然會將此能力再給予他人，你也不必刻意去成就這件事，只要在你出席的場合，人們就可以獲得這個完全滿足的能力。對你及他人而言，達到這種狀態(可說)是一種完全的解脫與救贖(salvation)。所有在昇進旅途所遭遇的困難都結束了，你只沉浸在天堂般的祥和及喜樂的福分之中，這就是所謂的" kaiyvalya "，即是"只是天上的喜悦"(only the bliss) 的意思。這就是指沒有任何字眼可以描述、形容它，它是一種狀態，在這種狀態下，你知道你處在那個狀態。這是一個非凡的境界，當你達到此，你不必再去追求什麼，因為一切都具足了，而且你是十分的滿足。

請大家持續靜坐，朝此目標進行，你們都有能力達到此一狀態------完全祥和喜樂的狀態。

註一：Shri Mataji前半段先是用印度語講，後半段才用英語，講的大致是相同的課題，但是印度語的部分似乎比較深入，只可惜印度語的部分翻成英語並沒有譯得很好。本譯文是翻譯自英語談話的部分，但也參考印度文談話的部分。

註二：江瑞凱翻譯自Shri Mataji在Mahashivaratri Puja的談話2004-02-15。JSM ! 敬請霎哈嘉兄弟姊妹們指正。

This is a subject which you can only explain in Hindi language. Which says that this Guru pad (state of Guru) you get from somebody else. But that somebody else is itself, is endowed with, the power, the power of peace of mind, to begin with, and also the power to overcome all kinds of earthly problems, mental problems, physical problems. All these problems you can solve through your mental balance and mental blessings from your Guru.

When you become the guru, you yourself have the power, to bless others. With your blessing power you can create a guru out of many. And once the guru is created and there is a guru, who has this power, it’s very satisfying and is very ennobling (enabling?).

The satisfaction is so much that you don’t want anything. This is the power of Shiva. You have seen Shiva doesn’t have much clothes. He doesn’t decorate Himself. He is just sitting in meditative mood, all the time. He doesn’t want anything. He’s so satisfied with Himself that He doesn’t want anything. And that is the power you get after the Self-realisation, if you have a Guru, and Guru of that level and calibre.

One should not try to become a Guru: that’s very impractical. If you try to become, you will never. It has to come to you automatically, without any asking, without any effort. So the only way you can get to it is through dhyana. Dhyana is meditation. When you meditate – just meditate, and meditate. Do not ask for anything. Meditation itself gives you that instrument which can bear this great power of the Guru. And then you, automatically, you give this power to others. You don’t have to work it out, just in your presence people can get this power of complete satisfaction. And there (that?) is salvation for you and for others.

So all the problems which are faced for the journey of ascent are finished and you are drenched in the bliss of heavenly peace and joy. That’s why it is called as kaiyvalya, means only, only the bliss. See, that means there is no other word to translate it, there’s no other way of explaining it. It’s a state, it’s a stithi. It’s a state. In that state you have to rise and you know that you are in that state. It’s a very remarkable thing that, once you reach that state, you don’t have to ask for anything; it’s all there, and you are so satisfied.

I can go on talking about this special power but I think, whatever I have said, please meditate on that. And you are all capable of reaching that state. That state of complete peace and joy.

對霎哈嘉新娘的談話

*** 對霎哈嘉新娘的談話 ***

我很高興看到妳們都穿著這麼漂亮的新娘禮服，而且又是容光煥發的來準備結婚，妳必須保持這種心情，妳應該要是一個快樂的人，而且也要試著讓妳的丈夫也快樂，妳的愉悅可以帶給小孩子快樂。

我必須先提醒妳一件事：不要告訴妳丈夫任何妳過去所犯的過錯。這是沒有必要的，因為現在妳是一個霎哈嘉練習者，妳是一個已轉化的人，過去發生的都已成為過去，妳不必再去提它或告訴妳丈夫，只需要談現在及未來。所以妳要聰明一點，正是妳的聰明來決定是否有一個快樂的婚姻。假如妳傻呼呼的，沒有任何智慧，那麼婚姻將會失敗。

有些女人掌控丈夫太過度，是沒有必要去掌控丈夫。妳應該用愛來取代掌控，最好的掌控方法就是去愛妳的丈夫、照顧他、(為他)做所有需要的一切。不要去炫耀妳是來自一個更高尚的社會、家庭或是文化背景，只有妳本身可以展現出妳是一個真正的好人，只有妳的善良可以贏得他的心。

是妻子來決定婚姻的成敗！我必須很直接了當來說：假如妳對這個婚姻仍然有些存疑，或妳仍然認為這不是一個很好的配對，那麼妳應該現在立即退出婚禮，之後妳就不應該不斷地找妳丈夫的缺點。要明瞭男人是男人，女人是女人，男人無法變成女人。但是妳可能讓他們了解到女人是必須被尊重的，要如何做呢？妳必須注意自己的行為，假如妳的行為是合宜的，那麼他們就會敬重妳。但假如妳的行為是幼稚的，或有攻擊性的，沒有一個男人會欣賞一個咄咄逼人的女人，所以妳不要有這樣的行為。無論妳丈夫講什麼，妳都應該同意而且聽從他。當然大原則要堅持，但是不要在一些小事、小細節上去支配妳丈夫，這不是一個女霎哈嘉練習者應有的行為。女霎哈嘉練習者必須要以愛、理解心及智慧來贏得丈夫的心，而非靠支配掌控。這一點是妳們必須要了解的，許多婚姻的失敗都是因為(一方的過度)掌控。

第二點要了解的是：原本妳就會依戀妳的父母、原生的家庭及國家，但從現在開始，忘掉它！要依附連結到妳丈夫的家庭、妳的丈夫及他周遭的一切，因為假如妳仍然依戀妳的原生家庭，那麼會破壞妳和丈夫之間的關係，我知道許多夫妻的婚姻失敗就是因為這一點。有一個例子，這位妻子因為她父親生意失敗，而一直很擔心她的父親，結果她的生活變得非常悲慘。她的丈夫離她而去，她陷入困境後只能回去她父親那裡，之後她才發現住在娘家是何等的艱辛。

所以婚後妳丈夫的家將是妳的家、妳的房子。妳不用試圖找其他人來幫妳，只有妳可以幫妳自己。我們現在就有一些女孩的不幸經歷，她們離開丈夫，帶著小孩回到她(父母)家，她父母的家庭要照顧他們一輩子嗎？誰將照顧他們呢？所以要用妳的大腦，不要去炫耀妳是比較優等或是高級或是比較如何，要講一些謙虛的話，越謙虛越好。自大並不適合妳，自大的人看起來就不是很和善，所以最好是表現謙虛及和善，來證明妳是有良善本質的人。

第二項該注意的是：因為妳來自西方世界，西方的婦女是非常金錢取向，甚至印度人也變得這樣。她們想要有一部車、一個房子，要這個、要那個。妳不應該去想要什麼東西，妳是來供給支持妳的丈夫及妳的(新)家庭，妳不需要什麼東西，假如妳可以如此，那麼這才是一位妻子的美麗之處，也是可以讓妳顯得更高雅美麗的裝飾。假如妳一再渴望："我要這個、我要那個"，那些欲望會是無止境的......。所以第二點要講的就是：妳不應該是金錢取向，而應該是愛的取向，用各種方法來表示妳的愛，例如做好吃的食物、為丈夫鋪一個舒適的床、將家裡佈置得井然有序、讓每樣東西都賞心悅目等等。假如這位家庭主婦是雜亂無章，那麼整個房子也會是雜亂無章。照顧房子並不是丈夫的責任，假如妳將房子整理好，妳將可以享受美麗的房子與房間。所以妳應該來享受這些，享受妳為家庭所做的每一件事，尤其是為妳丈夫所做的事，這一點一滴的小事都會帶給他喜悦及快樂。因為他在公司的工作已相當勞累，帶著疲憊的身驅回到家，而妳又去糾纏他，這是非常錯誤的。所以妳必須去改變妳的態度，即妳不要去要求任何東西。妳已經有所有的東西，妳是一個霎哈嘉練習者，妳(應該)是完全感到滿足。假如妳一再要求各種東西，那麼妳的婚姻生活將會十分艱辛。......

不要認為妳是在受苦，但是妳需要一些理解的智慧。假如發生了什麼事，而妳又有智慧，妳就可以採取一個有智慧的心態、平衡的心態、負責任的心態(來面對這些事)。對於家庭及小孩，妻子是比男人有更大的責任。但假如妳是一個壞脾氣的婦女，那麼只能祈求上帝拯救妳，也拯救妳的丈夫了！婦女絕對不合適有暴躁的脾氣，假如妳是如此，那妳會老得快，很快妳就會像個老年人。如果妳有(很大的)自我，想的都是自己，那麼這種快速老化也會發生在妳身上。所以妳的行事最好是像個小女孩，她來到丈夫的房子、來愛丈夫、來照顧他、來當他的媽媽。妳必須想成妳是他媽媽，從妳的觀點來看，妳的丈夫有時候可能有一些愚蠢，但不要太在意，就像照顧妳的嬰孩一樣來照顧他，要對他和善溫柔。

沒有任何妳原生家庭的成員是比妳的丈夫更重要，這一點非常重要，從現在起對妳最重要的就是妳丈夫。這是霎哈嘉式的婚姻，在霎哈嘉之外妳可以有其他不同的婚姻，妳可以結婚十次，一旦妳(舉行霎哈嘉婚禮之後)離婚，我們就不再為妳配婚。我們以前曾試著為這些人再配婚，但現在我們已完全放棄，不再這樣做了，因為這會讓一些女人養成離掉丈夫的習慣。一旦妳結婚了，妳就永遠結完婚了。假如妳想離婚，那麼妳要知道我們將和妳沒有任何關係，妳將從霎哈嘉裡被驅逐出去。(註一)

我們希望有非常美好的婚姻、非常優秀的小孩及很好的後代子孫，當然這都基植在妳是一個明理、聰慧、優秀且善良的母親。我已經說了非常足夠了，我希望妳了解妳是在霎哈嘉裡結婚，妳必須維護霎哈嘉的聲譽。妳們可以承諾嗎？

願上帝祝福妳們！

註一：Shri Mataji 在其他許多談話中也明確說到：是不禁止離婚的，只要這個婚姻妨礙你靈性的昇進，或對你產生巨大的苦難，那麼你是可以離婚的。譯者只是原文照翻，但是似乎不宜對"會被驅逐出"這一句話給予太僵硬的解讀。

註二：江瑞凱翻譯自Shri Mataji在霎哈嘉婚禮前的談話2002-09-15。JSM ! 敬請霎哈嘉兄弟姊妹們指正。

I’m very happy to see you all in such a beautiful dresses, bridal dressesand also in a good mood to get married. You must keep up your attitude – all right? You should be happy people, and try to keep your husbands also happy. Your happiness can create happiness for the children.

Now one thing I want to warn you: not to tell your husband about anything which was wrong in your past life. That’s not to be done, there’s no need, because you are now Sahaja Yogis. You are changed people and whatever has happened has happened, you need not talk about it or tell him anything about it, but talk of the future and the present – all right? So, be sensible! It’s your sensibility which is going to make a happy married life. If you become insensible, there’s no wisdom, then marriages will fail.

Some girls, I’ve seen, dominate their husbands too much. There is no need to dominate. If you love the husband that’s how the domination is, is the best way is to love your husband, look after him, do whatever is needed, because no use showing off that you are from a better society or a better culture or a better family background. It’s only you who can show that you are really a good person and your goodness will win him over.

So it’s only the wife who makes or spoils the marriage. And I have to tell you very frankly that if you still have some doubts about your marriage or if you are still thinking this was not a good match you should withdraw now. And later on you should not go on finding faults with your husband. See, men are men and women are women. Men cannot be women but, you can make them understand that women are to be respected. All right, and how – that you will have to see by your behaviour. If your behaviour is good, they’ll respect you. But if your behaviour is childish or if your behaviour is aggressive, no man can appreciate a woman who is aggressive and so you should not be aggressive. Whatever he says you should agree and listen to him. Fundamental things of course is there, but otherwise for small, small things, you should not try to dominate your husband. It’s not a sign of a Sahaja Yogini. Sahaja Yogini has to – with love and understanding and wisdom – has to win over the husband and not by domination. This is one thing we should understand that many marriages are broken because of domination.

Second thing is, you’re naturally attached to your parents, attached to your family, attached to your country. But now, forget it! Be attached to your husband’s family, husband and things around. Because if you are attached to your family, you’ll still spoil the relationship. I’ve known many couples being broken because of this.

There was a girl who was very much worried about her father, because he’d lost the business and she made the whole life miserable. So the husband disappeared and he wanted to do something else and she was left in the lurch and she had to go to her father and then she realized how difficult it is to live in father’s house.

So, it’s your house, it’s your home, it’s your husband. All right, you don’t have to sort of go on searching another person or another woman who will help you. It’s you who can help yourself. All right, because now we have very bad experiences of some girls who have left their husband and come away to their families with their children. Is the family going to look after them all their lives?  Who is going to look after them?

So use your brain and don’t try to show off that you are something superior or something higher or you’re something more. Say something you should be humble. The humble you are the better it is. Otherwise arrogance doesn’t behove you.  She doesn’t look nice, she looks like a horse sometimes and looks like – I don’t know like what. So it is better to be humble and to be kind and to be nice and to prove that you are a good natured person. All right!

Second thing I have to tell you, because you are from the West. So western women are very much money-oriented, even Indians have become like that. They want a car, they want a house, they want this, they want that. You shouldn’t want anything. You are going to supply to your husband, to your family. You don’t need anything. That’s your beauty, that’s your decoration that will beautify you. But if you go on hankering after “I want this, I want that” there’s no end to it. Especially with western mind, they are very money-oriented and have created such problems that I don’t know what to say to them.

So, second thing is that you should not be money-oriented, but you should be love-oriented. Express your love by different things. By making good food, by making a good bed for your husband, for organizing the house, keeping everything nice. Because if the housewife is untidy the house will remain untidy. It’s not the job of the husband to look after the house. You’ll enjoy a very beautiful house and a very beautiful room, if you keep it properly.

So you should enjoy all that. Enjoy doing everything for the family. Especially for your husband. Little, little things can – you see – give him pleasure and happiness. Because he’s so tired working in the office. Coming home so tired and then you get after that person, is very wrong. So you must change that attitude that we don’t want anything. You have everything, you are Sahaja Yogis, you are absolutely satisfied. But if you go on demanding then going to be very difficult I can tell you this much.  ......

There’s nothing to suffer much, but understanding is required, you see. Supposing, if you are wise and if something happens, take a very wise attitude, balanced attitude, responsible attitude. Wife has to be much more responsible than man as far as the family is concerned, children are concerned. But if you are a hot tempered woman, God save you and save your husband. So, hot temper is not suitable at all for any woman. If you are hot tempered you’ll start looking old very soon. Very soon you will start looking old, and if you have ego, if you think too much of yourself also same thing will happen. So, best thing is to behave like a little girl who has come to husband’s house to love him, to look after him and to mother him. You have to think that you are his mother and he – sometimes they are foolish according to your judgement – doesn’t matter. So, look after them just like your baby and be nice and sweet to them. All right?

And none of your family people are more important than your husband. That is very important. For you now the most important thing your husband. This is a Sahaja style of marriage. And you can have other marriages, you can have ten marriages – that’s different, not in Sahaja Yoga. And once you are divorced then we don’t marry you. We have given up, we tried that. Now we don’t do that. Because it becomes a habit of divorcing your husband. Once you are married you should be all married and if you want to divorce then know before this thing that we’ll have nothing to do with you. And you’ll be thrown away from Sahaja Yoga.

We want to have very good marriages and very good children. Also the progeny, the future of children will be very good, if you are sensible, wise, good and kind mothers. I’ve told you sufficiently. I hope you understand that you are marrying in Sahaja Yoga. And you have to keep the prestige of Sahaja Yoga, all right? You all promise that?

May God bless you!

對霎哈嘉新郎的談話

*** 對霎哈嘉新郎的談話 ***

我很高興你們決定在霎哈嘉裡來結婚，但是你必須有一些特別的責任。這不是外面那些婚姻------你今天結婚，明天你離婚，又可以(在婚姻中)做這些、那些(荒膠)的事，絕對不是！你可以在霎哈嘉中來結婚，是因為我們希望使霎哈嘉更強壯！

你將有一位妻子，她會照顧你、對你好、愛你，因為她是一個霎哈嘉練習者。你也必須對她好，不要試圖去掌控她，或要她接受你種種的觀念。你要注意她需要什麼，你必須知道如何愛你的妻子，否則婚姻是很難持續的。假如你(結婚之後)決定要離婚，那麼我們不會讓你再參加下一次的配婚，這是我們目前已經決定的政策。或是你離棄你的妻子，或在婚姻中做一些不負責任的事，那麼在霎哈嘉裡你將沒有任何空間。

所以這是一個你自己要做的終身決定，它是一個很大的責任。我們希望霎哈嘉的婚姻都很成功，你們也都可以享受快樂的婚姻生活。支配或是掌控對婚姻沒有任何助益的，而是要去享受兩個人的相伴。你的妻子是一個霎哈嘉練習者，你也是，除非你們都是霎哈嘉練習者，否則我們是不會為你們舉辦婚禮，這理由是：你們都是得到自覺的人，是有更高覺知的人，是追求靈性生活的人，(所以)你們也必須在你們生活中展現出你和那些愚笨的人有不一樣的行為，那些愚笨的人只是不停的爭鬥、破壞......。

你們將會有美好的小孩，你要去照顧你的小孩、照顧你的家庭，這是你的首要之事。當然你們當中有一些人可能工作非常忙碌，這也無妨，但你要愛你的妻子、照顧她、照顧小孩，這些都非常重要；否則你應該不要結婚，而保持單身。假如你結婚，你就要對你妻子負責，她也是某人的女兒，她的父母將她委託給你。截至目前為止，在霎哈嘉的(婚姻)的男生(大致)表現的不錯。你們應該要有智慧來了解到，你是來創造霎哈嘉小孩來幫助霎哈嘉，因為我們必須要來改變這個世界、解放這個世界。假如你對婚姻只有很低層次的認知，那麼這個任務是不會成功的。

我以很敬重的態度，對各位有一個很謙虛的請求：假如你走上霎哈嘉的婚姻，你必須了解到你的責任，這是一個很大的責任，這是對全世界的一個大責任，因為我們必須要改變這整個世界。假如你的行為和外面世界那些丈夫一樣，那麼又何必有一個霎哈嘉婚姻呢？你可以在外面有自己的美好婚姻，但假如你要在霎哈嘉內結婚，你必須要知道這是一個很大的戰爭------對邪惡、對不公義、對各種不對的事情的戰爭。我們是要創造一個美麗的(新)世界，為此我們需要有優秀、也尊重每一個人的練習者。

所以我要再次請求你們：你必須要當一個非常好的、謙虛、有尊重之心的丈夫，不要也變成那些失敗的例子，我是很訝異(過去)在霎哈嘉的婚姻中會有這種人、這種行為，(後來)我們發現那些人都是瘋子、精神錯亂的人，所以他們才有這種精神異常的行為。

所以任何攻擊性或類似的行為都不被允許的，你和這位女孩結婚為的是要造福全世界，不只是為了你、你的小孩、你的家庭，也為了全世界。你必須向世人展現你是一個通情達理、有智慧、高度進化的新人類。這並不是低階人士的婚姻，所以你有責任來表現出你是一個非常成熟的人、你是內在有光的人、你是已得到自覺的人，而且你有能力來點亮這世界。

因為你的妻子是來自另一個家庭，甚至另一個國家，所以(你們之間)會有一些不同的理念與想法，所以你必須讓他她明瞭，你必須和她溝通，你必須(耐心地)告訴她："來，坐下來，我們來談一下"，但是不要發脾氣和生氣，若是如此，你再多的解釋也沒有用。我希望看到的是你們每一個人都展現出你們有一個成功、美好的婚姻。但是我並不是說你要寵壞你的妻子，絕對不是！不需要寵你的妻子，要讓她也成為好的霎哈嘉練習者，也成為霎哈嘉的好義工。她們將會是很好的母親，她們會創造出目前我們想要的小孩，未來這些小孩會徹底改變這個世界。

我希望你們同意我(以上)所講的，這樣子就很好。假如你不同意，甚至你現在都還可以抽身離開、放棄這個婚禮，我一點都不會介意。但是在婚禮之後，假如你試圖行為不軌，或是想離婚，那麼霎哈嘉將不會收留你。你們是否接受我以上所說的嗎？無法接受的請舉手。

謝謝大家！

註一：江瑞凱翻譯自Shri Mataji在霎哈嘉婚禮前的談話2002-09-15。JSM ! 敬請霎哈嘉兄弟姊妹們指正。

I’m very happy that you all have decided to marry in Sahaja Yoga, but there are certain responsibilities which you must have. It’s not like other marriages – that today you marry, tomorrow you divorce, then you do this, do that. Nothing of the kind. You are marrying in Sahaja Yoga because we want to strengthen Sahaja Yoga.

You’ll have wife, she’ll look after you, she’ll be kind to you, she’ll be loving you because she is a Sahaja Yogini. And you should also be very kind to her. Don’t try to dominate, don’t try to pass her to your ideas. See what she wants. You must know how to love your wife, otherwise marriages are not possible. But once you divorce in Sahaja Yoga we will never marry you again – this we have decided now. Or in any way, if you desert your wife or leave her or do something irresponsible about your marriage, in Sahaja Yoga you have no place.

So, once for all, now only you decide that you are marrying it’s a very, very big responsibility. We want Sahaja Yoga marriages to be very successful and all of you should enjoy a very happy married life. No use dominating, no use controlling, but enjoying each other’s company. Because your wife is also Sahaja Yogini, you are also Sahaja Yogi. And we don’t marry you unless and until you are Sahaja Yogis. The reason is: we are enlightened people, we are of higher awareness. We have our spiritual life. We have to show in our lives how you behave very much differently from others who are stupid people, who go on fighting, spoiling, everything.

So that you will have nice children, look after your children, look after your family, that’s your first thing. Of course, some of you will be very busy with your work. It’s all right, but loving the wife, looking after her, looking after children is very important. Otherwise you should become bachelor, you should not marry. But if you are marrying, you are taking the responsibility of the wife. She is the daughter of somebody and the father is giving the daughter to you. So, so far boys have behaved very well, I must say, in Sahaja Yoga and so now you should also have wisdom and understanding that you are here to produce Sahaja Yogi children, to help in Sahaja Yoga, because we have to change the world. It’s to be emancipated. If you have very lower level of understanding of marriage it won’t work out.

So I’ve to make a very great respect, with great respect I have to make a very humble, I should say, request to you that – please, please – if you are entering into a married life in Sahaja Yoga, you have to understand your responsibility, it’s a very great responsibility. It’s a responsibility for the whole world, because we have to change the whole world. And if you behave like other husbands of your country or of other countries then what’s the use of marrying in Sahaja Yoga? You can go and have a nice marriage outside. But if you are marrying in Sahaja Yoga you have to know it’s a big battle against evil, against injustice and also against all kind of mismanagements. We want to make a beautiful world and to make a beautiful world we need people who are beautiful, who themselves respect everyone.

So, I have to make again and again same request to you that you be very good, humble and respecting husbands. Don’t follow others, because I’ve had funny things and I was surprised how could these people become like this in marriages in Sahaja Yoga. But we found out they were all mad, lunatics, and they behaved in a lunatic manner.

So aggression and all these things are not allowed. You are marrying these girls specially for the benefit of the whole world. Not only yourself, not only your children, your family, but the whole world, before the whole world you have to show that you are a very sensible, wise and highly evolved person. This is not a marriage of a lower type of people. So it’s a responsibility with you to show that you are very matured and that you have that feeling of enlightenment within you. And you are enlightened people. And you can enlighten the whole world.

Of course, because the wife is coming from another family, another country maybe, so there will be little difference of understanding. So you make her understand, you have to talk to her, you have to tell her, “All right, come along, sit down.” But no use losing temper and getting angry. Whatever explanation you may give for that is not good. It’s not going to help you. I want to see all of you how you show successfully that you are very nicely married to your wives. But I don’t say you spoil them, by no means, I’ve already told them. Don’t have to spoil them, but let them be also on the good lines of Sahaja Yoga. And become good volunteers of Sahaja Yoga. They’ll be very good mothers and they’ll create those children which we want now, who will completely change this world.

So, I hope you agree with Me and if you agree well and good. If you don’t agree, even now you can leave and you can give up – I will not mind at all. But after marriage if you try to misbehave or if you try to divorce, youhave no place in Sahaja Yoga. We’ll not have you here. So, are you all accepting it? All right? Whosoever is not accepting raise your hand.

Thank you very much. Thank you very much.

克服貪婪的三個方法

*** 克服貪婪的三個方法 ***

反向來平衡貪婪(greed)的方法就是變得極端的慷慨大方。假如你是非常大方，那麼貪婪會離你遠去。(並不是隨便地做)，而是可以有另一個方式來表現慷慨大方。假如你家裡有一些東西，並不是沒有用而想丟掉它，而是你覺得你其實可以不需要這種東西，你應該送給他人才對。當你開始思索你可以送給誰，你可能立即會想到："某人沒有這個東西，我可以送給他"。而且假如你送給他，他將會十分感激，他會對你說各種好聽的話，這些話都是一般常人不會對你說的！你會驚訝到施予所帶來的喜樂，及人們會何等喜歡你的慷慨大方！

人必須要慷慨大方，是對別人慷慨，而不是對自己慷慨，而且要盡可能大方。慷慨贈予的行為是給予他人愛，這也是表達你的愛的方式之一。

另外一個去除貪婪的方法：你應該試著去做一些幫助大眾的社會工作。假如你去貧困百姓居住的地方(去幫助他們)，你(內心)的貪婪馬上會下掉！那些人的生活狀態及生活環境會讓你啞口無言，你不會再關心你的財富及種種，他們的情境會給你一個很大的震撼！

在印度，有些人是非常的誠實。我家裡的僕人就從來不會偷任何東西，這是十分令人驚訝！為什麼？為什麼他們不會偷竊呢？因為他們安於他們的生活，他們(也)不想因偷竊而被關入監獄，他們不想改變他們目前的生活。他們根本不會想到偷竊這回事，他們根本不會去做這種事，為什麼？因為他們有羞恥心。在一些貧窮的百姓中，羞恥心(反而)有高度的發展。在他們的社群裡面，他們非常尊敬誠實的人，他們也都非常誠實，或許其中也有少數人不誠實，但是這種人是不被尊敬的，因為他們認為自我尊重(self-respect)是最重要的。這是很難想像的，他們甚至一天只吃一餐，可是對他們而言，自我尊重是比任何事都來得重要。所以如何對付這種毫無意義的貪婪呢？ 第三個方案就是你的自我尊重。為什麼你要去偷竊呢？為什麼你要去擁有這些偷來的東西？或擁有那些屬於別人的東西呢？假如你的内裡有自我尊重的心，你就不會去碰觸不屬於你的東西，那些貧窮的僕人都做得到，為什麼更富裕的人們做不到呢？這是一種他們所擁有的更高階、更進化的心態，即他們的自我尊重遠比那些可能滿足貪婪之心的東西來得更重要！

關於貪婪有一點非常重要，即貪婪之心永遠不會被滿足！(在追求金錢及權力之下)，人處在那裡呢？是處在什麼位階呢？是處在進化過程的什麼位階呢？那些人如不停轉圈圈的老鼠一般，一直追逐金錢，這是臍輪的問題，臍輪必須要加以清理改善，正是臍輪給予人們滿足感！

註一：江瑞凱摘譯Shri Mataji在錫呂俱毗羅 (Shri Kubera Puja，即財富之神) 的談話2002-08-18。JSM ! 敬請霎哈嘉兄弟姊妹們指正。

The only way to counter-balance is to become extremely generous. If you are extremely generous, greed will run away. That may be another way of doing it. Supposing you get something in your house and you think it is too much. Not to get rid of it, but just to think it’s too much, you should give it to someone. You just start thinking whom can you give and immediately you’ll remember, “Oh, that person doesn’t have this. Let me give him this.” And if you give him, he will be so thankful, so thankful and he’ll say all kinds of nice things to you, which normally nobody would say to you, nobody. And it’s surprising how joy giving it is, how people like your generosity.

So you have to be generous, just generous, not with yourself, but with others. As much as possible be generous. Generosity is very love giving, one of the expressions of your love. ......

Another thing is to get rid of greed; you should try to do some sort of a collective social work. Supposing you go to some place where lots of poor people are there, I tell you, your greed will just drop. Be amazed how these people are living, in what conditions. Why do I care for all the wealth and everything? That will be just shocking. ......

So the third solution for this kind of a nonsensical greed is your self-respect. Why should you steal? Why should you have anything that is stolen or why should you have anything that belongs to another person? If you have that self-respect within you, you won’t touch anything that is not yours. When the servants can do that, why not people who are not that badly off. It is a temperament of a higher level, I think, which they develop, where their self-respect is much more important than all kinds of other things that may satisfy their greed. One thing about greed is it is never satisfied. It is never satisfied. ...... But they want to have power because they want to have money and they get power with money. Can you imagine? Where are human beings? At what level? At what level of evolution they are? They are going round and round the circle of this money. This is Nabhi Chakra, which has to be improved, which gives you satisfaction.

錫呂格涅沙和喜樂

*** 錫呂格涅沙和喜樂  ***

錫呂格涅沙(Shri Ganesha)最大的特質就是喜樂(joy)。在甚至還不會講話的階段，小小孩就會帶給我們許多喜樂，這個給人喜樂的特質就是來自錫呂格涅沙。我看到有些人來到霎哈嘉之後，並未充滿喜樂，他們非常嚴肅，他們不知道如何笑，不知道如何享受每一件事，這就是他們能缺乏純真(innocence)的表癥。做為一個霎哈嘉練習者，你必須了解到你應該是(隨時都是)喜樂的，而且可以帶給他人喜樂的，就如同小孩子一般。小孩子是給人何等甜美的感覺！或許他們只是剛出生，但是他們就可以給予人十足的喜樂。假如你無法來享受小孩子的純真，那麼恐怕是無可救藥了，錫呂格涅沙也無法幫你了。因為這應該是人類與生俱來的能力，假如你沒有這種能力，那麼你其他的感官能力都沒有什麼用處。譬如有人喜歡食物、顏色和其他種種，但是假如你沒有錫呂格涅沙(的喜樂)，那麼你無法單純地來享受任何事物。只有在錫呂格涅沙的祝福之下，人們才能真正的完全來享受所有的事物。否則人們只會開始論斷、開始批評，只會對外物提出種種的質疑，......就如現代社會有許多批評家，他們無時不刻都在批評......。他們就猶如身體中的瘡、膿。假如你無法有欣賞的態度、無法來享受外在的一切，正表示你的内裡缺乏錫呂格涅沙。你應該要能享受每一件事物，要能享受你的小孩及他人的小孩，如此才表示你有錫呂格涅沙完全的祝福。

如果你沒有錫呂格涅沙的祝福，你將是一個完全無用的霎哈嘉練習者，因為你將總是看到他人不好的一面，即你會陷入一種困境------你無法去享受任何事物。或許你會說你的態度是比較嚴肅、成熟、進化，但是其實你(只是)沒有純真！這種人只會帶給週遭的人頭痛與麻煩。假如團體中有這樣的一個人，大家都會想將他踢出去。

所以你應該有錫呂格涅沙的特質，即給予他人喜樂的特質。重點是在於你能給他人多少喜樂，而不是你要(獲得)任何東西。即有這種特質的人不會說："我必須要得到這個、我必須要有這個職位、我必須當負責人等等"。他只是去享受給予他人喜樂。他會是一個幽默、和善的人，他絕對不會去侮辱他人、傷害他人。假如他陰錯陽差傷害到一個人，他一定會百般自責，並一再請求對方原諒。

像這種快樂的人才是一個真正的霎哈嘉瑜伽士，這種人才是大家喜歡與之共處的練習者。這種人對他人沒有恨意，沒有任何惡意，也不會去找他人的缺失，而只會看他人的優點及特點。這種人是不會在乎他人是白皮膚或黑皮膚，是高或是矮。對他而言，這都沒有差別，因為他是(處在)完全的享受與喜樂(absolute joy)之中，在這享受之中，你不會去批評，不會去找尋他人的過錯。

註一：江瑞凱摘譯Shri Mataji在錫呂格涅沙普祭(Shri Ganesha Puja)的談話2002-09-14。JSM ! 敬請霎哈嘉兄弟姊妹們指正。

The greatest quality of Shri Ganesha is joy. It gives you joy, as small children, they may not speak even, but they give us so much joy. Joy giving quality comes from Shri Ganesha. Even after coming to Sahaja Yoga I’ve seen people are not full of joy. Are very serious, they don’t know how to laugh, how to enjoy anything. That’s the sign that they are still lacking in innocence. So it’s important to understand that, if you are sahaja yogis, you should be joyous and give joy to others, just like children, how sweet they are. They may be newly born, but how much joy they give you. But supposing you do not have that capacity to enjoy the innocence of children, then nobody can help you. Ganesha cannot help you. Because that’s the innate quality human beings have and if you don’t have that quality, no use having any other sense. Like some people like food, they like colours, they like all other things. But if you don’t have Shri Ganesh you cannot purely enjoy anything.
So it is only [with] Shri Ganesha’s blessings that we really enjoy everything in its full measure. Otherwise, we start judging it, we start criticizing it, people raise so many things, questions. ...... As we have many critics in this world, and they are all the time criticizing one another. ...... It’s like having some sort of a boil, or some sort of a septic thing in your body, in your being. So, if you cannot appreciate it, and if you cannot enjoy it, then Shri Ganesha is missing from you.
You should be able to enjoy everything, and to enjoy your children, enjoy children of other people. That’s the sign of your being completely blessed by Shri Ganesh. ......

If you don’t have the blessings of Shri Ganesh, you’ll be completely useless fellow as a sahaja yogi, because all the time you are seeing the bad points of others, all the time you are devoiding, I should say, you are getting into a problem, by which you cannot enjoy anything. By temperament you think you are very serious, you are very mature, you are very developed, but you are not innocent. Such a person gives such a headache to everyone. You know, if there’s one like that, in the family, people want to get rid of him.

So you should have the quality of Shri Ganesha which is of giving joy to others.

Depends on how much joy you can give it to others. It doesn’t want anything. Such a person won’t say that “I must get this, I must have this position, I should be leader, I should be this and that”, no. He just enjoys giving joy, joy to others, and being humorous, and kind, and never, never tries to insult anyone and hurt anyone. If such a person hurts, by mistake also, he goes on repenting about it. And hundred times he’ll beg your pardon if he has hurt you.

Such a happy person is a real sahaja yogi. That’s the one we want to have all around. Those who have no hatred for anyone, no malice for anyone, and not finding faults with another, but trying to find what is the good point of that person, what is so special about that person. He’s not bothered as to what colour you are, whether you are black or white, whether you are tall or short, it makes no difference. Because it is absolute. Absolute joy. And for this absolute joy, you don’t criticize, and you don’t try to find faults with others.