*** 對霎哈嘉新郎的談話 ***
我很高興你們決定在霎哈嘉裡來結婚，但是你必須有一些特別的責任。這不是外面那些婚姻------你今天結婚，明天你離婚，又可以(在婚姻中)做這些、那些(荒膠)的事，絕對不是！你可以在霎哈嘉中來結婚，是因為我們希望使霎哈嘉更強壯！
你將有一位妻子，她會照顧你、對你好、愛你，因為她是一個霎哈嘉練習者。你也必須對她好，不要試圖去掌控她，或要她接受你種種的觀念。你要注意她需要什麼，你必須知道如何愛你的妻子，否則婚姻是很難持續的。假如你(結婚之後)決定要離婚，那麼我們不會讓你再參加下一次的配婚，這是我們目前已經決定的政策。或是你離棄你的妻子，或在婚姻中做一些不負責任的事，那麼在霎哈嘉裡你將沒有任何空間。
所以這是一個你自己要做的終身決定，它是一個很大的責任。我們希望霎哈嘉的婚姻都很成功，你們也都可以享受快樂的婚姻生活。支配或是掌控對婚姻沒有任何助益的，而是要去享受兩個人的相伴。你的妻子是一個霎哈嘉練習者，你也是，除非你們都是霎哈嘉練習者，否則我們是不會為你們舉辦婚禮，這理由是：你們都是得到自覺的人，是有更高覺知的人，是追求靈性生活的人，(所以)你們也必須在你們生活中展現出你和那些愚笨的人有不一樣的行為，那些愚笨的人只是不停的爭鬥、破壞......。
你們將會有美好的小孩，你要去照顧你的小孩、照顧你的家庭，這是你的首要之事。當然你們當中有一些人可能工作非常忙碌，這也無妨，但你要愛你的妻子、照顧她、照顧小孩，這些都非常重要；否則你應該不要結婚，而保持單身。假如你結婚，你就要對你妻子負責，她也是某人的女兒，她的父母將她委託給你。截至目前為止，在霎哈嘉的(婚姻)的男生(大致)表現的不錯。你們應該要有智慧來了解到，你是來創造霎哈嘉小孩來幫助霎哈嘉，因為我們必須要來改變這個世界、解放這個世界。假如你對婚姻只有很低層次的認知，那麼這個任務是不會成功的。
我以很敬重的態度，對各位有一個很謙虛的請求：假如你走上霎哈嘉的婚姻，你必須了解到你的責任，這是一個很大的責任，這是對全世界的一個大責任，因為我們必須要改變這整個世界。假如你的行為和外面世界那些丈夫一樣，那麼又何必有一個霎哈嘉婚姻呢？你可以在外面有自己的美好婚姻，但假如你要在霎哈嘉內結婚，你必須要知道這是一個很大的戰爭------對邪惡、對不公義、對各種不對的事情的戰爭。我們是要創造一個美麗的(新)世界，為此我們需要有優秀、也尊重每一個人的練習者。
所以我要再次請求你們：你必須要當一個非常好的、謙虛、有尊重之心的丈夫，不要也變成那些失敗的例子，我是很訝異(過去)在霎哈嘉的婚姻中會有這種人、這種行為，(後來)我們發現那些人都是瘋子、精神錯亂的人，所以他們才有這種精神異常的行為。
所以任何攻擊性或類似的行為都不被允許的，你和這位女孩結婚為的是要造福全世界，不只是為了你、你的小孩、你的家庭，也為了全世界。你必須向世人展現你是一個通情達理、有智慧、高度進化的新人類。這並不是低階人士的婚姻，所以你有責任來表現出你是一個非常成熟的人、你是內在有光的人、你是已得到自覺的人，而且你有能力來點亮這世界。
因為你的妻子是來自另一個家庭，甚至另一個國家，所以(你們之間)會有一些不同的理念與想法，所以你必須讓他她明瞭，你必須和她溝通，你必須(耐心地)告訴她："來，坐下來，我們來談一下"，但是不要發脾氣和生氣，若是如此，你再多的解釋也沒有用。我希望看到的是你們每一個人都展現出你們有一個成功、美好的婚姻。但是我並不是說你要寵壞你的妻子，絕對不是！不需要寵你的妻子，要讓她也成為好的霎哈嘉練習者，也成為霎哈嘉的好義工。她們將會是很好的母親，她們會創造出目前我們想要的小孩，未來這些小孩會徹底改變這個世界。
我希望你們同意我(以上)所講的，這樣子就很好。假如你不同意，甚至你現在都還可以抽身離開、放棄這個婚禮，我一點都不會介意。但是在婚禮之後，假如你試圖行為不軌，或是想離婚，那麼霎哈嘉將不會收留你。你們是否接受我以上所說的嗎？無法接受的請舉手。
謝謝大家！
註一：江瑞凱翻譯自Shri Mataji在霎哈嘉婚禮前的談話2002-09-15。JSM ! 敬請霎哈嘉兄弟姊妹們指正。
I’m very happy that you all have decided to marry in Sahaja
Yoga, but there are certain responsibilities which you must have. It’s not like
other marriages – that today you marry, tomorrow you divorce, then you do this,
do that. Nothing of the kind. You are marrying in Sahaja Yoga because we want
to strengthen Sahaja Yoga.
You’ll have wife, she’ll look after you, she’ll be kind to you,
she’ll be loving you because she is a Sahaja Yogini. And you should also be
very kind to her. Don’t try to dominate, don’t try to pass her to your ideas.
See what she wants. You must know how to love your wife, otherwise marriages
are not possible. But once you divorce in Sahaja Yoga we will never marry you
again – this we have decided now. Or in any way, if you desert your wife or
leave her or do something irresponsible about your marriage, in Sahaja Yoga you
have no place.
So, once for all, now only you decide that you are marrying it’s
a very, very big responsibility. We want Sahaja Yoga marriages to be very
successful and all of you should enjoy a very happy married life. No use
dominating, no use controlling, but enjoying each other’s company. Because your
wife is also Sahaja Yogini, you are also Sahaja Yogi. And we don’t marry you
unless and until you are Sahaja Yogis. The reason is: we are enlightened
people, we are of higher awareness. We have our spiritual life. We have to show
in our lives how you behave very much differently from others who are stupid
people, who go on fighting, spoiling, everything.
So that you will have nice children, look after your children,
look after your family, that’s your first thing. Of course, some of you will be
very busy with your work. It’s all right, but loving the wife, looking after
her, looking after children is very important. Otherwise you should become
bachelor, you should not marry. But if you are marrying, you are taking the
responsibility of the wife. She is the daughter of somebody and the father is
giving the daughter to you. So, so far boys have behaved very well, I must say,
in Sahaja Yoga and so now you should also have wisdom and understanding that
you are here to produce Sahaja Yogi children, to help in Sahaja Yoga, because
we have to change the world. It’s to be emancipated. If you have very lower
level of understanding of marriage it won’t work out.
So I’ve to make a very great respect, with great respect I have
to make a very humble, I should say, request to you that – please, please – if
you are entering into a married life in Sahaja Yoga, you have to understand
your responsibility, it’s a very great responsibility. It’s a responsibility
for the whole world, because we have to change the whole world. And if you
behave like other husbands of your country or of other countries then what’s
the use of marrying in Sahaja Yoga? You can go and have a nice marriage
outside. But if you are marrying in Sahaja Yoga you have to know it’s a big
battle against evil, against injustice and also against all kind of
mismanagements. We want to make a beautiful world and to make a beautiful world
we need people who are beautiful, who themselves respect everyone.
So, I have to make again and again same request to you that you
be very good, humble and respecting husbands. Don’t follow others, because I’ve
had funny things and I was surprised how could these people become like this in
marriages in Sahaja Yoga. But we found out they were all mad, lunatics, and
they behaved in a lunatic manner.
So aggression and all these things are not allowed. You are
marrying these girls specially for the benefit of the whole world. Not only
yourself, not only your children, your family, but the whole world, before the
whole world you have to show that you are a very sensible, wise and highly
evolved person. This is not a marriage of a lower type of people. So it’s a
responsibility with you to show that you are very matured and that you have
that feeling of enlightenment within you. And you are enlightened people. And
you can enlighten the whole world.
Of course, because the wife is coming from another family,
another country maybe, so there will be little difference of understanding. So
you make her understand, you have to talk to her, you have to tell her, “All
right, come along, sit down.” But no use losing temper and getting angry.
Whatever explanation you may give for that is not good. It’s not going to help
you. I want to see all of you how you show successfully that you are very
nicely married to your wives. But I don’t say you spoil them, by no means, I’ve
already told them. Don’t have to spoil them, but let them be also on the good
lines of Sahaja Yoga. And become good volunteers of Sahaja Yoga. They’ll be
very good mothers and they’ll create those children which we want now, who will
completely change this world.
So, I hope you agree with Me and if you agree well and good. If
you don’t agree, even now you can leave and you can give up – I will not mind
at all. But after marriage if you try to misbehave or if you try to divorce,
youhave no place in Sahaja Yoga. We’ll not have you here. So, are you all
accepting it? All right? Whosoever is not accepting raise your hand.
Thank you very much. Thank you very much.
